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Trying To Figure Things Out (And Struggling) #PostTraumaticStressDisorder

Sometimes the reality of what I've lived through is too much and it gets overwhelming. I'll find myself snapping at the smallest things and it seems like I am on sensory overload most of the time. The harsh realizations of the sexual abuse/sexual assault and emotional abuse cause me to go into crying spells. Recently I've been told that I'll walk out of the bedroom and into the living room while still half-asleep and then have a nightmare that often leaves me fearing for my life. I've even been told that I've been found in the fetal position. The scary thing is, I have no memory of those nights. When this was brought to my attention, it made me realize how much of my past was buried in my subconscious and that even when I'm not actively thinking about it, it's still there. Though I've created physical distance between my abusers (one of them is in prison and I'm still trying to cope with that) it seems like the sad reality is, I'll never really get away from them and what they did. I've had no luck finding therapy or psychiatric help and it's only making the struggle harder. I try to help myself by doing little things, like resting or writing but those things don't take away the pain I feel on an almost daily basis. The pain of being betrayed and abused by people that I thought loved me is a pain that I don't think I will ever really heal from. Yet people tell me to accept that the abuse happened and it will help me heal. It's been 5 years since the abuse ended and some days I feel like I should be doing better than I am. I try to be gentle with myself but recently, it's just been too much. It's hard to open up about the sexual abuse/assault because it was a family member. That makes it tremendously harder and more embarrassing to talk about. Most people don't understand and I am forced to go back to living in shame and secrecy. I'm just hoping someone here can help. I guess what I'm asking for is just all around moral support. Prayers would be appreciated. We all need to help each other. I'm just struggling and feel at a loss right now. I'm tired of crying. I'm tired of being afraid. I'm tired of being frustrated. I just want to be healthy and healed. Any advice and support would be appreciated. Thank you.

#ChildhoodAbuse

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New Me?? *trigger warning*

I'm feeling a little down today. Nothing like usual, just a little off. Sometimes this happens before the shit hits the fan, so I'm anxiously anticipating that. I feel like I live in a pinball machine, bouncing off the walls and bumpers and glass, however, today I'm just slipping along the sides and avoiding all of the obstacles. It's not a very good analogy, but it makes the most sense to me. I am asking myself if this is 'regular' or 'level' ... I can't remember the last time I felt this way.

I started a new medication (both new to me, my p-doc, and to the market) about six weeks ago.The new med belongs to a group of drugs called an atypical antipsychotic that also has an antidepressant effect. For the first time in over 40 years, I haven't had suicidal ideation every single day! It took me a couple days to realize I hadn't thought about it and it really threw me off. You have to realize that that line of thinking has been my life. Every. Single. Day. It has always been my go-to; the only thing that I felt I had control over. My p-doc is astounded at how I've turned around. He decided to wean me off of the antidepressant I was currently on. I've noticed that I'm a little more snappy; my patience level has changed, though, for the better. I think I'm being shown that I can deal with my illness, and that it's time for me to put in a little mindfulness and being more conscious of my mood, and the ways I choose to deal with those feelings.

To put it in nutshell, I'm terrified that this is only going to be a quick fix, that it won't work, or that it will work but there's a HUGE crash coming. I'm just really afraid. I'm trying hard to stick to today and not give thought to tomorrow, but I can't just flip the switch that's been on for so long.

I really hope we're onto something here. It has been nice not to spend so much time thinking about and planning my demise.

Thank you for always listening. It's nice to have this community's support, understanding and sometimes a well-placed foot to the butt.

#Abuse #Addiction #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #Bipolar2Disorder #ChildhoodAbuse #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #CPTSD #Depression #EmotionalAbuse #Hypomania #MentalHealth #MightyPets #neglect #OurSideOfSuicide #PTSD #Relationships #SubstanceUseDisorders #Suicide #SuicidalIdeation #SuicidalThoughts #SuicideIdeation #SuicideSurvivors #SuicidalThoughts #Suicidethoughts #Survivor #Trauma @dannygautamawellness

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Sweet Sinead

So sad that Sinead O'Connor died due to mental health issues. Some will call it 'committing' suicide, that she completed a selfish act, and who knows what else. Sinead died by suicide, her last moment in a tragic life filled with trauma, pain, devastation, grief, and instability. Let us not focus on her means of death, rather the mental health demons that ate away at her and caused her demise. Many of us deal with the same issues she did, and many are a tiny step away from her death. Listen when someone says they're not feeling right, give a call or text when a friend has been off the radar for a while. We can all help people who are suffering. Any words or actions you choose can help someone get past that moment of just not wanting to be here. Be patient, compassionate and caring. Be kind. ❤

#Abuse #Addiction #Anxiety #Bipolar2 #BipolarDisorder #Bipolar2Disorder #ChildhoodAbuse #CPTSD #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #Depression #EmotionalAbuse #Hypomania #MentalHealth #MightyPets #neglect #OurSideOfSuicide #PTSD #Relationships #SubstanceRelatedDisorders #SubstanceUseDisorders #Suicide #SuicidalIdeation #SuicideSurvivors #SuicidalThoughts #SuicideAttemptSurvivors #SuicideSurvivors #Suicidethoughts #Survivor #Trauma

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Getting rid

Im thinking that my DNA is paired wrong …. The helix 🧬 goes the other way - this is fact because it wasn’t one person that did those things it happened again and again - even as an adult I went back for more and I hate myself . I want to get rid . I used to bathe in bleach but nothing works #ChildhoodAbuse #PTSD #SexualAbuse #recoveryishard #Hatemyself #Migraine #EatingDisorders #SuicidalThoughts #Selfharm

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Eating out

Can’t do this - overthinking is too much today.. desperate to live in the moment whilst on holiday… no calories mentioned in menus… feeling dreadful but know I’m lucky … trying not to disassociate…. #CPTSD #ChildhoodAbuse #Shame #Hatemyself

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Forgiveness, Trauma, Complicated Relationships and Catholic Beliefs #Trauma #Abuse #Relationships

As a trauma survivor I'm always told that forgiveness is necessary for healing, and yet others say that it isn't necessary. As a practicing Catholic, I know what the church says but when you have complicated relationships with your family then I think that makes forgiveness a little more difficult. I have no relationship currently with my family ever since I spoke up about the abuse I was enduring. They seemed to turn on me and I am still healing those wounds. I used to feel completely let down and invalidated.

I felt defeated and unimportant. I thought that speaking up would make things better. It did the opposite. Other than no longer being abused, I struggle to see the positives. Sure I have a loving fiancé that has been with me every step of my healing journey but somedays that just isn't good enough. I have written numerous letters of forgiveness to my abusers but always discarded them. I felt they either weren't genuine or I wasn't ready. However I have been able to forgive myself for not knowing certain things then that I know now. Yet I struggle to forgive my abusers. It makes it harder because the abusers are family members.

What are your takes on forgiveness? I do want to reach a place of healing and maybe forgiveness one day. I want heal so much that I cannot get triggered. Though having #PTSD makes that a little hard. I feel like if I forgive then I can move on. I know forgiveness is a personal choice but I just wanted some opinions. Ultimately I may follow Catholic doctrine and forgive my enemies but right now I am not there.

#SexualAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #ChildhoodAbuse #Trauma #BipolarDisorder #PTSD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Family #Toxic #Healing #Writing #Forgiveness #Catholic

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A yr of hell

This last year I've been through a whole mess of things and it's not over with yet...I wish I had a magic wand to fix it but know that's not possible. My self esteem was at an all time high and I had a lot going for me then boom me and my husband started to split, he was off the chain and indulging in all sorts of things, not to mention started seeing someone that was related to my boss, my supposed "best friend" and because of that with a combination of domestic violence and the list goes on...I've been going through it and add 2 teenagers to the mix....life has been one hell of a shit show. I haven't felt this low in a long time and haven't had a good day in atleast a month....I do have days that r better then some but far and few lately...my bed is my best friend and I'm just so lonely, sad, and have a lot of suicidal ideation... I'm doing the things talk therapy, meds, and even anger management it seems to help but then pops in my 40yrs of pushed down childhood trauma that I have never really dealt with, which I know is a good thing so I can heal but idk how much more I can take and I'm trying to keep myself together the best I can for my kiddos as well.....ugh! Please Pray for me and my family. #Anxiety #BipolarDepression #ChildhoodAbuse #ADHD #PTSD

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